Where do good and bad feelings come from?

All human actions are motivated at their deepest level by one of two emotions - fear or love.  These are the only two emotions, the only two words in the language of the soul. There are many variations of love and fear, but if you stop to think about the route of our true feelings behind an action, you can trace it back to one of these two emotions.

How do we judge everything?

Love and fear are the two points which allow the system of relativity with which we judge everything in our lives to exist. Without these two ideas, no other idea could exist.

There is no other human motivation than these emotions, and all other ideas are just derivatives of these two.

If you think on this deeply, you will see that it is true.

Why do we judge everthing?

When we experience anything in our daily lives, we judge the experience immediately as either good or bad. We may not even know we’ve made that judgement at the time, but on reflection it’s obvious.

From the moment we’re born, we are taught that there are limits, restrictions, ways to behave, and the majority of these are there for someone else’s reasons. We are judged by others and so learn to judge using their standards - the largest influencer of our judging standards is our parents.  Our parents are the gods of our universe as children.

Our parents taught us that love is conditional -  you will remember feeling those conditions many times - and this is the experience we take into our own relationships.

Those occasions taught us that we are less than perfect and that we must put others feelings above our own to be loved.

How can we take control of our lives through changing the way we think?

So we make judgements of our experiences in our lives from someone else’s point of view. This is the first thing to recognise when trying to change our thought processes.

Once we recognise this, we can start to listen to our own real feelings about those experiences, and finally start creating our own reality through controlling our thoughts and judgements.

When you make a judgement of person or experience, have a think about what the driving emotion behind your decision is, check whether it truly matches with your feelings, or whether it stems from someone else’s standards.

The next step is to try to discard your judgements, and replace them with the judgement you would like to make.

For example:

If someone makes you feel bad by telling you you’re doing something wrong, or even if you think they might.
STOP.
Discard your initial judgement of the person or the situation, and think of a judgement which makes you feel good about the other person, about the situation and about yourself.

You’ll be amazed by the effect this simple process can have on your life.

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I’ve found the best way for me to do this is using a technique called scripting which I picked up from the Esther Hicks book - ‘Ask and it is given’.

Scripting is the process of writing your new reality, Esther used the comparison of a script writer changing the story of a film.

It’s a very simple technique, literally all you need is some time to yourself and a pen and paper.

You start off writing down the unwanted scenario you’re currently faced with in full. Then read through what you’ve written, pull out and write down the fundamental problems which are causing this scenario to happen in your life.

Once you have this information, you can start to identify what alternative action you can employ to change your future reality and create the scenario’s in your life which you want.

The way I tackle situations like this, is by implementing the techniques taught in ‘The Secret’ and the law of attraction. I start monitoring my thoughts and the way each thought makes me feel.

I then take the information I’ve written down about the unwanted scenario’s I’m currently facing in my life and start to put alternative suggestions to myself in the form of answers to questions while monitoring how each answer makes me feel. The answer which makes me feel good, or excited, or happy is the option which I know I should take.

The next stage is to write down the answers which resonate with your true path - make you feel good or happy - and focus on these answers with complete knowledge that you will achieve the new reality you want in your life journey, filled with the scenario’s and experiences you want.

It’s important to note again that when you listen to your feelings about a thought, you have to focus purely on the initial feeling the thought generates, not the countless ‘yeah but…’ thoughts which rear their ugly heads immediately after.

Once you have written the new script for this part of your life, spend a few minutes meditating on it every day in the morning, and every time you read the words to yourself, remember to ignore the doubts and focus on the feeling of this new reality.

The more time you can devote to thinking about how your new reality will make you feel happy, the closer you will be to manifesting that reality. Don’t think about it as something which will happen in the future though, expect it to start happening now…you create your own reality, and if you live in a world where you decide how you feel about each day and each moment within that day you’ll be amazed at the change this makes to your life.

One of the main problems people have with this technique is that they try to fix whats already happened. You can’t fix the past, all you can do is focus on the future, the now. This was one of the fundamental lessons I’ve learnt - I no longer (well as little as possible…everyone enjoys a whinge every now and then) spend any time complaining about my life, I just think about whats happened and then focus on what’s going to happen next.

I still get angry and depressed, but i use those times to create a new plan, a new reality where the next time I’m in a similar situation, I’m calling the shots. It almost feels like being detatched from the situation, because you’ve already decided the outcome from the experience, you don’t get caught up in the emotional rollercoaster of the moment and can even enjoy it!

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The plan for the evening was to create visualisation boards, one each, on which we would stick images which we wanted to focus on and bring into our reality, alot of people are now referring to this as manifesting, or creating your own reality.

The process was actually great fun and not only did it allow us to see what each other wanted to change or work towards, but we also found that we chose very similar goals, in fact we even picked exactly the same images in a couple of instances - strange seeing as we found them in completely different magazines (we didn’t look at each others boards until we were both finished).

Once we had completed the visualisation boards, we stuck them on our bedroom walls, where we would spend at least 5 minutes focusing on the elements each day whilst getting dressed.

This is a great way to focus your mind on where you are heading, it’s almost like a quick and easy meditation exercise, and I found that I had new energy and enthusiasm for life every day after starting my day in this way.

I’ve mentioned in previous posts that after watching ‘The Secret’ I have been able to start creating my own reality every day by being aware of what I’m thinking and how I feel about each thought, if the thought is making me feel anything other than good feelings (feelings of love) then I choose to think about an alternative which deals with the issues in a way which makes me feel good. The easiest way to do this is either through visualising what you want to happen, or by writing down (sometimes called scripting) what you want to happen.

Here’s a real life scenario:

I had been worrying about my relationship with my new boss, he was distant and gave me no feedback as to whether I was performing well or badly. I had no idea whether this was going to be a relationship which could progress and benefit him, me or the company. It got to the stage where I would constantly be analysing what he might be thinking about the work i was doing for him, and generally these thoughts were based around fear that I might lose my job.

What I did:

I wrote down all the things which were bothering me about the situation. Then I visualised and wrote down exactly how I wanted the relationship to change, what I wanted my boss to provide for me, and where the relationship should end up. Over the next few weeks I stopped analysing what might go wrong before a meeting, and started expecting my visualised new reality.

What happened next?

Within a month I had received a large pay rise, in meetings my boss was smiling, joking and even complimented my work once (which I had been told would never happen from other people managed by this person) and he started to be the boss I had visualised.

To start with visualising feels like a wish list, lying to yourself, but if you choose things which you believe can happen in your life, which make you feel good (all good feelings are feelings of love) and then focus on these things with a sense of deserved expectancy, you’ll be surprised what will present itself.

One last thing to mention is that once you’ve decided what you want and where you’re going, be aware that opportunities to move towards your goals will appear, maybe in a casual conversation, maybe in a classified ad you glance at, but you can be sure they’re on their way. Just saying to yourself ‘I’m looking forward to the new opportunities today is bringing my way’ will help you be aware and spot these doors which you have brought into your reality.

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I have long felt that life should not be filled with work and time spent around people you don’t necessarily care about, but rather, life should be filled with fun and laughter. I have always believed that everyone can have a job which they enjoy, and are motivated and fullfilled by every day.

My first decision was to look at changing my life to spend most of my time with my family; we’re planning to home school our two children, and I wanted to be as involved with their schooling as my wife will be.

To provide the additional time needed for this my wife and I discussed both of us working part time. For us to be able to work part time, we needed to find a way to be more flexible about work and working hours.

We’ve often talked about taking the money we’ve made through the increasing market value of our house, and using it to move away from the South East of England, not just because the price of living and owning a house means most family’s have to work as many hours as possible to pay their bills, but also because we aspired to something more with regards to personal fullfilment. For me this meant the satisfaction of my soul’s desire to provide for myself, and to be creative every day of my life - I’ve often used the line ‘every day should be different’ meaning that there should be an element of each day which you don’t plan for, you just arrive at that point each day and make up what you are about to do.

After watching ‘The Secret’, I asked myself the question ‘Should I stay at work building my career, near my friends and family etc. Or should I make time with my family my priority and work towards that goal?’ - what ‘The Secret’ had shown me was to listen to my true feelings on this issue, truly listen….. I knew the right answer for me straight away, and made up my mind to take the plunge; sell the house, quit my job, move to an area where we could buy a house outright - without a mortgage - and start working part time.

We made that decision in January 2007. We decorated over the next few months, sold the house in May 2007 and have now just moved to our new house in Derbyshire.

I quit my job as New Media Manager for a business to business publishing company covering the uk food and drink industry in July, and received my first taste of part time work after working out my notice period, when helping out at the same company while they recruited for my replacement.

Since then, I’ve been singing the praises for part time work - if you can see a way to trying it, do it!! It’s a truly liberating experience. You spend more time doing the things you like when you like (because you have more free time) and you have a new enthusiasm for work because you’re relaxed and happy.

I love spending more time with my wife and children, I knew I would, I just wasn’t listening to my soul (my feelings), which were screaming out for me to take the fun option.

One of the first things I say to anyone when I tell them about creating your own reality is:

• Ask yourself a question and listen to how the different answers you put forward make you feel - the answer which makes you feel good/right/happy is your true path
• When asking yourself this question, don’t listen to the thoughts which occur straight after each different answer…these always tend to be ‘yeah, but…’ thoughts. There is always a ‘Yeah, but…’ thought about everything, but there’s only one true feeling, one true path which will lead you to joy and happiness.

I always find when I go through this process, that I know the answer to the question already, that is, that one of the answers doesn’t just feel right, I know it’s the right option for me to follow.

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I’ve been able to identify the main areas of my life which I was unhappy with, decide what I would like to happen instead, and then attract in the opportunities which have enabled me to reach those goals. I now have the experience and belief to address further parts of myself and my life which I would like to change.

As I have mentioned before, the catalyst for all this was watching the film ‘The Secret’ back in January 2007. While I had heard of ‘The Secret’ before watching it, I had no pre-conceptions other than it was something to do with this whole ‘create your own reality’ phrase which I kept hearing, but didn’t really understand.

The film is, as I mentioned before, a bit cheesy in places, and certainly at the start I was sitting there thinking ‘yeah yeah…this amazing secret which will change my life yada yada’, but I have to admit that I was taken aback when, the further through the film I got, the more I found myself agreeing with the majority of the statements it made.

The film starts off explaining that everything we understand as ourselves / our world / our universe is made of energy. Then explains that because we’re all made of the same stuff (energy), we are all connected.

It then talks about our thoughts, and how when we create a thought, this creates a magnetic impulse which affects the energy frequency which we resonate at and project out.

Because everything is connected, when we change our frequency, this affects the frequency of everything around us.

The film then goes on to say that the type of thoughts you produce and spend time focusing on, have an affect on the type of experiences you attract into your life. This is because energy vibrating at a particular frequency attracts other energy also vibrating at that frequency. So if you are thinking positive thoughts, you are attracting positive experiences, and if you are thinking negative thoughts, you are attracting negative experiences.

There are two basic types of thought: positive thoughts and negative thoughts. Obviously there can be many levels of variance between a positive and a negative thought, but the basis of this understanding is that all thoughts have an underlying feeling attached to them.

When talking about our thoughts, there are two basic feelings: a thought which makes you feel good, or a thought which makes you feel bad - also referred to as love and fear.

Once you are conscious of the thoughts you are having and how they make you feel, you can start to control your thoughts. This is how you start to create your own reality, by choosing to think thoughts which focus on what you want in your life, what makes you feel good, rather than thoughts which focus on what you don’t wan’t in your life, or what you’re afraid might happen.

The whole process which is summarised above is referred to in the film as ‘the law of attraction’ - like attracts like.

My own experience of this process is that it has fundamentally changed my life. In the last 9 months I have used the law of attraction to bring into my life:

• A £5000 pay rise
• A camper van (an old 70’s VW too!)
• A new job offer with a company I’ve always wanted to work for
• Sums of money whenever I have really needed them

But the biggest effect that this whole process has had, is to change how I live day-to-day. For example: before if I had a meeting at work which I knew was going to be an unpleasant one, I would worry about it and go through all the worst case scenarios in my head, whereas now, I visualise how I want the meeting to go and thats what happens.

One thing to mention before I finish this article, is that when you’re visualising what you want to happen in your life, you must choose things which you believe could happen to you and which make you feel good / happy. If you choose something which you don’t believe could come into your reality, all you’re focusing on is the lack of it, and thats what you get - the lack of it.

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The turn of events started when I watched a film called ‘the secret’ at the beginning of 2007.

The Secret isn’t the best film ever made, in fact it’s more of a documentary than a film, and can be a bit cheesy in places, but on watching it my wife (Vikki) and I both felt that the essence of the message rang true.

Since then I’ve read various books which expand on the theories behind the film from different perspectives, and have found that practicing what I’ve learnt has transformed the life I live every day and my outlook on the rest of my life (lives).

So here I’ll be sharing what I’m learning, the decisions which I’m making, the effect those decisions are having, and how I’m changing and evolving during this process.

If anything I’m discussing catches your attention, I’d like to hear your view, so please do comment on the article or contact me.

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The theme that runs continually through the book is to remember our divine origins. Walsch’s book makes God accessible in an almost secular way, different to our Bible-based one. An immediate, humorous, “guy next door kinda God” reminding us of basic truths.

The book is written for Westerners and is practical and daily-life oriented, with answers on sexuality, money, relationships and health amongst many others.

Conversations with God has the potential to reprogramme you to see the divine and spirituality in a totally new light.

The question to be asked is “is this really God?” and indeed Walsch asks it and is replied: “What difference does it make? Even if everything I’ve said is ‘wrong’, can you think of a better way to live?” “No” replies Walsch and if you are searching for spiritual answers and have not found your traditional distant God helpful, then this book could be for you.

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Psychic activity, remote viewing, the power of prayer and homoeopathy are all discussed in this book.

The energy found in the vacuum - or the zero point field - seems to be the key to all sorts of unexplained phenomena: ESP or remote viewing, homeopathy, energy medicine, spiritual healing, and even the homing instincts of animals.

Lynne McTaggart follows the life and work of disparate physicists, pioneers in the area where the paranormal meets quantum physics.

A book which, like Capra’s Tao of Physics, explores the latest offerings from the scientific community who have found an explanation for the supernatural. It promises to be one of the most successful popular science books of the year. Will appeal to readers of Frijof Capra, Arthur C. Clarke, Graham Hancock and those interested in the paranormal, energy medicine, and popular science

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Valerie Hunt’s book, INFINITE MIND, is a classic in the field of human energy fields, or bioenergetics. The research described in INFINITE MIND is on the cutting edge of exploring what we know about human energy fields. Hunt’s descriptions of experiments she’s conducted with aura readers and physicists make fascinating reading. For example, Hunt shares her amazing findings in the “Mu Room,” in which human subjects burst into tears when the electromagnetism of the air was depleted, and regained a sense of clear thinking when the electromagnetism of the air was increased. The Mu Room is a seven foot square shielded room located in the Physics department at UCLA, where the electromagnetic energy of the air can be altered without reducing its breathability (oxygen content). Other studies examine the energy fields of healers and the people they are healing, and the energy fields eminating from our bodies independent from our internal organs.

INFINITE MIND is packed with gems of wisdom, such as Hunt’s description of the five most commonly unintegrated spiritual experiences (experiencing a God-like energy, recalling a past life, gaining abilities to perform miraculous healings and alter material substances, acknowledging one’s rage at God’s apparent abandonment of us, and the Kundalini experience). INFINITE MIND is a book best read sequentially from beginning to end, since Hunt includes numerous personal experiences throughout her descriptions of scientific studies and experimental results.

What I most enjoy about INFINITE MIND is the way Hunt weaves together a sense of wholeness from her exotic experiences with spirit healing in foreign lands, her unceasing commitment to scientifically investigating energy fields and thought forms, and her honesty in sharing her mystical insights along the way. Seldom is a reference book as riveting and relevant as INFINITE MIND.

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The long-running paradigm of good intentions paving the road to hell has been brilliantly overturned by investigative journalist Lynne McTaggart’s new book, THE INTENTION EXPERIMENT. McTaggart provides dazzling evidence of the spectacular power of intentions from a wide variety of peer-reviewed, statistically significant research reports as she takes us on a tour of cutting-edge research currently underway in the relatively new field of consciousness. One of the challenges of studying the mind’s effect on matter is that intention demonstrates variable effects depending on the state of the host and the time, place, and manner by which it is initiated, which McTaggart addresses by presenting a number of ways that various types of intentions produce different effects, as well as ways to help ensure better outcomes.

THE INTENTION EXPERIMENT takes us on a journey to discover what, exactly, is meant by ‘intention,’ and how we can produce results we’ll most appreciate. Whereas seasoned meditators can demonstrate remarkable command over their physical processes and remotely influence others, McTaggart describes how anyone can learn to achieve noticeable results. The key to achieving an effective state of intentionality lies in powering up, reaching a state of peak intensity, developing mindfulness, merging with what is to be influenced, being compassionate, and specifically stating an intention. When we follow these instructions after reading a thorough overview of relevant research, we can find it a lot easier to believe that it may be possible for us to send our intentions to far-off places and times.

Some of the more startling facts in THE INTENTION EXPERIMENT are research findings about how our intentions can influence the past, and that athletes who do not physically exercise but only imagine their workouts can increase their muscle strength between 13 and 16 percent. The world’s top athletes depend on mental rehearsal to help guarantee their competitive edge, and everyone can see tremendous improvements in our lives by rehearsing specific activities before actually doing them.

High points in THE INTENTION EXPERIMENT include a description of the way: atoms can become entangled and behave as one single giant atom, a heated fullerene molecule can exhibit wavelike behavior in which it interferes with itself, human bodies can act as transmitting and receiving antennas, living things demonstrate awareness of the well-being of other living things around them, biofields change when receiving and sending healing intentions, physical health improves when others send focused healing intentions, different forms of meditation produce strikingly different brain waves, brain waves can be manipulated to initiate transcendent and terrifying experiences, sun and geomagnetic activity influences telepathic and telekinetic abilities, and places and things can become harmoniously aligned with healing intent.

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It has been passed throughout the ages, traveling through centuries… to reach you.

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Endorsements have been received from Neale Donald Walsch, John Gray, Wayne Dyer, Louise L. Hay, Jack Canfield and Christiane Northrup.

This book explains how our relationships, health issues, finances, career concerns are influenced by the Universal laws that govern our time/space reality and describes powerful processes that will help people manifest their desires and live the fulfilling life you deserve.

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